Tuesday, April 2, 2013

My Moving Story and How the "Sh" Word Escaped My Mouth

Hi all! It has been a few days since I posted last. I am still in the process of unpacking at our temporary place and I am trying to set up a sewing area as well. It is a bit difficult to do since my kids are on their spring break and we are trying to spend time as a family.

I know I said I will share more about my moving drama, but there are so many things that happened I am not sure where to start and what to tell...

We were supposed to move out of the house completely by the 28th, and our moving truck and movers we hired were scheduled for the 26th. I was not done packing at all. I mean NOT AT ALL. I was packing here and there, but the couple rooms I was avoiding came and bit me hard. Can you guess which rooms I am talking about? The hobby room and my closet. Because we are not moving in to our new place right away, I have to decide what to put in storage and what to take with me. That is really hard to decide. I ended up packing till 5 am the night before I slept a couple of hours and got up to continue on. In fact, when the movers came, I was still packing!

Ok, turn the clock back to the 26th... that's where I will start telling you one of my mother of the year award moments.

I have been slowly packing and cleaning for a few weeks, but by the 26th I was under a ton of pressure. All I did was packing and I felt like the packaging tape and marker became parts of my body. We wanted to reschedule the movers to the 28th but since they are so booked, we couldn't. I was so disappointed that we couldn't, but what can I do? I just have to keep packing.

Then, several hours later, Mr.TRH talked to the sales rep of our builder and heard some bad news. We were supposed to move in to our new house in July, but now they are saying August or September. We signed the paper in January, but the paper work wasn't even submitted to the city. WHAT??? Was I upset? Ohhh...that isn’t a good enough word to describe how I felt. If we had known that was going to happen we would have waited to sell our home until May or June. I really wanted to stay in our house and move straight in to our new house. Sometimes I wish I could see the future and decide what to do, but I guess that defeats the purpose of having the ability to make choices.

I was feeling lava boiling in my stomach, but I decided to keep working. We sold our house; we have to move out there so I have to pack up everything.

The boys’ room was nearly done packing, all I needed to do was to take off the bedding and wash them and pack. I ducked down into the bottom bunk to pull the sheets out and then found TONS and TONS of socks, pajamas, books, and toys between the wall and the bed... SERIOUSLY??? Now I have to repack them but this time separately from the other things. I still kept my cool and was going to pull myself out of the bunk bed when...


I hit my head so hard on the rail. "SHxx!!"

The lava boiling in my stomach was reached its limit, hitting my head on the rail was the last straw. I had enough! The word just rolled out of my mouth.

The thing is though, I never swear. That's just not what I do. I am not tying to say that I am miss perfect or anything, but there is a standard I live by and strive to be. There are things I don't do and swearing is one of them.

In fact, my 10 year old was looking at me with wide eyes. He didn't say anything, but his eyes were saying, "What just happened?" Mr. TRH who was packing down stairs even heard that and came running up to see what was going on.

"Are you ok? What happened??" I took a deep breath and tried to explain myself, but near the end my voice failed and I knew I would start crying if I kept talking, so I stopped.

The great thing was that he understood that I was under a lot of pressure and gave me a hug. phew, he always knows what I need and makes me feel better (I am still mad at the builder though!).

I apologized to my son for my behavior later on and he said it's ok, but I told him that it's not ok. I should be in better control of my anger and be a good example for him.

I guess it left a vivid impression and he told several people that mommy used the "sh" word. I felt like it was the talk of the town. He told my mother-in-law (we laughed together though), and my oldest son came to me that night and whispered, "Mom, I heard that you used the "sh" word today??" his eyebrows were moving up and down. Why are children so excited when parents make mistakes.

My response? "what? Oh, you mean "shoot" or "sheesh"?"

Later we found out that the reason the paper wasn't processed yet was that the lady who was supposed to do that got mad about something and quit her job. When she left, she hid all the paper work in a drawer and didn't tell anyone. When the company started getting phone calls from clients they didn't know what was going on and started opening drawers and found the papers. Who does that?? The way she handled her anger was so unprofessional and irresponsible, now we are the ones that get to suffer. :(

I guess big or small, it's better to be in control of our emotions don't you agree?


  1. Oh you poor soul,how distressing. I was once told that the most stressful thing you would ever do in your lifetime.
    I'm sure by the time you get into your new home you will be laughing about this ordeal for many years to come. :)Good Luck

  2. Let's hope this will be the biggest challenge you face with moving to the new house! The idea of a new home is both frightening and exciting, I wish you more events on the exciting part :)

  3. I understand you have set very high standards for yourself and I really don´t like people cursing all the time...but we are all humans and when something like that happens emotions fly by. I wouldn´t worry too much...it does not make you a worse person...hope the ordeal is over soon.

  4. Just shows how one person's selfish actions can affect so many people. As you've indicated, several builders and families would have been delayed by this one thoughtless action and indirectly, suppliers, real estate agents and many others would have suffered as well...some not even understanding why their cash flow was affected. I am glad you've obviously found a place to go and you never know, it could end up being a good experience.

  5. Let it all out girl!!
    I don't think any of us is perfect and would suggest not to stress out over a slip of the tongue. It can happen to anyone!

  6. I am sorry to confess that this had me laughing fairly hard this morning! You may not be a saint, but you are a rare rare bird of true sweetness and gentleness and innocence. Some people fake it and are hard to tolerate, but you come across as the real deal. You have real strength though and you will come through this moving ordeal and make that new home amazing for your lucky family- hang in there!

    As for the woman who hid the paperwork- someone that angry and able to create innocent victims can not know the kind of peace you probably have 23 hours out of the day. Her life is full of turmoil so she spreads it. Send a prayer for some peace her way.

  7. What a cute story and thank you for sharing it. I know what you mean about being "discovered" by your children that we are not perfect. Don't worry, what happened will have a lasting good effect on them to know that we ALL make mistakes, even Mommies and Daddys, and there is always forgivenss and hope in a new day. God is good. I pray that from here on out your adventure gets easier. Building a house is so exciting and yet sooooo very stressful. We moved three times in three years in different rentals before we moved into the home we built on our dream piece of land. It was so hard and we didn't have little ones to deal with as our children were grown. Pace yourself and keep your eyes on the goal of the day you walk into your new beautiful home and a new chapter begins in your lives. Thanks for sharing, I really enjoy your blog very much!! Blessings, Linda

  8. Thank you for the wonderful lesson on our agency. Seriously, I needed to read that today. I love that when you write about something in your life, you help others by your own lessons or thoughts. I hope all flows smoothly from here on out! Good luck & have fun creating!

  9. Okay, first of all, saying the sh word in a moment of pain and stress is not that bad. You have no idea what my children have heard my husband say in far less stressful situations. Your son is old enough to understand that there are adult words and child words, and that sometimes people make mistakes. But really, it's okay. Don't beat yourself up over it anymore. If people are talking, it's only because they're surprised, not because they're judging you for saying it. Or even for saying it in front of your son. You're a nice person, and people who know you know that, too. :-)

  10. I am praying that the rest of your move will go well and that you will be in your new home sooner rather than later!

  11. just a quick note to say sorry for your challenge. wouldn't you like to know what could possess that woman to be so thoughtless? She had to know you all were the ones to suffer. what goes around comes around

  12. We all have moments we're not proud of, but I like how you handled it with your kids. That secretary didn't handle herself well at all. Congratulations on getting moved, that's a major hurdle done.

  13. I wanted to leave a note yesterday when I read your post. My husband and I are going through a similar and horribly painful experience and it would be a grand understatement for me to say that I feel for you. I have no aphorisms or platitudes to offer to make it feel better. Suffice it to say, I wanted to say something helpful and have come up empty.

    You can always feel free to vent your frustrations here to the internet sewing world. We're here for you.

  14. Sorry you had such a rough time! That is so frustrating with your house. And I can't tell you how many times I have hit my head on a bunk bed and wanted to swear! I hope the next few months pass quickly.

  15. sorry about the moving, but you will save soooo much in mortgage payments!

  16. Oh my heck, that is so frustrating! Moving is stressful enough without added stressors, I am sorry :(

  17. oh gosh, what a day you had. Your family sound amazing and so supportive and hugs are sometimes all you need to make you feel better.

    About the swearing - well, you were at the end of your tether and you handled it really really well by making sure your boys knew that YOU thought your word was wrong and should have kept your temper in check (easier said than done though, be kind to yourself). My mum never swears and me and my sis were in out 20's when we heard her swear - it was a bad bad word and J and I were in shock as it was so unlike my mum, but she had been pushed and pushed to the end of her limit and snapped. we did laugh though as we were surprised that she lasted so long without swearing. We still remind her of it now and then and it is part of the family stories - remember the time mum said THAT word??
    Wishing you health and happiness in your new house xx

  18. Sachiko, you're so real and sweet. Thank you for sharing. You made me laugh and thankful for not buying bulk bed for our sons ;D


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